Suggestions about a crush??

[Joxter]

Hi! I don't know if this topic goes against the rules. If that's the case, admins may close the thread.

Long story short, I've had the biggest crush on this person for the past six (almost seven) years and we mainly chat since we are long distance friends and can't really meet every other day.
We actually met already twice this year.
Sometimes I feel they feel the same about me, sometimes it feels they are just kind and friendly.

The question is... is there any way I can pick hints up from their texts? Are there things I can pinpoint?

I really REALLY like them and I plan on confess to them someday in the near future, but yet I don't want this to be embarassing, nor I want to ask them out if it's clear they see me as a friend. (Not that I wouldn't be cool with that nonetheless)

help... XD

[Blomady]

Hi Your topic does not violate the rules, don't worry

I can't really come up with a proper advice, because I don't know every detail about your relationship and I'm also afraid to spoil something, but I will share my thoughts with you, maybe it helps you to think everything over.

Actually, given that you don't meet often and just chat online, it's really hard to find out whether they have feelings for you or not. Some people don't show their feelings at all and act normally with no hint at any romantic vibes. At the same time, they might see you as a friend only.
You can also ask yourself: are you sure that your feelings towards that person are romantic? Do you really see them as your partner in the future? Is it worth it, I mean, is there a possibility to meet more often, to move to the person's city or vice-versa? If the feelings turn out to be mutual, there still might be problems that will hamper on your way.

I really understand your concerns about the confess because if the feelings are not mutual the person can simply get frightened by it and then you risk losing a friend. At the same time, it's not very honest to hide your feelings towards a person who sees you as a friend only and trusts you. Continuing to do it, you will not feel good at all, and if one day the person finds someone they like and start dating them, you'll get hurt by this fact and will regret that you chose to keep silence. But, there is still a chance to lose a friend (and still a chance that they will talk to you and choose to be friends despite your feelings. At least you will know that they feel to you).
It might be better to do something than to regret doing nothing and never find out what could have happened.

Summing up: the choice is up to you of course. In any case I support you.

[Joxter]

Hi, thank you for replying to the thread. :3

I might start stating that indeed what I feel for them is strongly romantic. What I tried to do is studying how they act with their friends but the more I think about it, the more I'm confused. I caught they are quite different with their friends, but again I think that maybe they are shy or maybe they were just excited to see me or, again, I'm imagining things.

Also my friends say they might like me back from what they see form our interactions/texts... so yeah, I'm stuck between "they feel the same", "I am oblivious" and "I am overreacting to average friendly behaviour". This is quite driving me insane. XD

I'll be gathering my courage up one day and tell them nonetheless.
I don't even demand reciprocity anymore from them. It's just a matter of getting this weight away from my chest.

[Blomady]

I'll be gathering my courage up one day and tell them nonetheless.
I don't even demand reciprocity anymore from them. It's just a matter of getting this weight away from my chest.

Actually, this is a good thing to do. According to your friends' opinion, they might have feelings for you, and if so, you'll be twice happier haha